Ever since Izaac's knock on the head, we had decided to buy the safety corner cushions to prevent another accident from happening again. Especially for Athina as she had just started to learn to walk. It’s easy to lose her balance as she is walking unsteadily. Another thing is that the design of our place is not very child-proofed. There are quite a few of sharp corners and all are at the knee level, which would be a “dangerous” spot for the little Athina.
Papa Tang bought some safety cover cushions protectors for the sharp corners. The safety cover cushions are actually quite easy to use. All we need to do is use the double-sided adhesive tape and paste the cushions at the sharp corners.
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After pasting the cushions, Athina is curious about it and tries to pull the cushion a few times and soon the double-sided tape lose its stickiness. Although Athina did not knock onto the sharp corner, the others in the family knocked into the corner instead. I think the best way is to use glue to stick it. Or another way is to screw into it.
Athina had very bad skin condition on her cheeks. We brought her to a lot of doctors and tried means and ways to cure her rashes. Every time when her skin condition get better, it got worse again. Here's how bad her condition are.
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Finally I searched online and get to know that there is a kids clinic nearby and the doctors are good so I decided to bring Athina to let the doctor see.
We waited for hours before it was our turn but I think it was all worth it. According to the doctor, Athina had eczema. And to prevent the rashes from developing, the best way is to keep applying moisturizing cream. The doctor recommended the Ezerra cream for Athina to apply. Till now, Athina's cheeks got better already. Thanks to the doctor's recommendation of the Ezerra cream.
I am still applying the Ezerra cream every time after bath and Athina had slowly grown accustomed to it and does not resist the applying of cream as the first time.
Here's one that with Athina's soft face.
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For mummies who are worried about your babies rashes, try buying Ezerra cream to give it a try.
Even the best behaved child has an occasional temper tantrum. A tantrum can range from whining and crying to screaming, kicking, hitting, and breath holding. They're equally widespread in boys and girls and usually occur from age 1 to age 3. Some children may experience regular tantrums, whereas for other children, tantrums may be rare. Some kids are more prone to throwing a temper tantrum than others.
Children are trying to learn the world around them and when they are not able to accomplish a task, they often resort to using the only tool at their disposal for venting frustration - a tantrum. There are several basic causes of tantrums that are familiar to parents everywhere:
Anger can be a terrifying and degrading experience for your child if you're taking your anger out on them. When you abuse your child physically or verbally, you are actually sending a wrong signal to your child. It can also lead to lasting and lethal implications, so it's crucial that as a parent, you must always keep your anger in check.
A recent report that I have read have shown that children whose parents often express anger are more likely to be difficult to discipline. Identify problems from your past and honestly look at current situations that are making you unhappy and full of anger.
Is it work related, pressure from your boss, unfulfilled goals that are bothering you, relationship issues with your spouse and circle of friends or you are frustrated simply of so many things that are beyond your control. If all your child ever sees is your angry face and hears an angry voice, that's what they'll most likely grow into as well.
Young children always model after their parents in terms of behavior and what they learn in the initial age of between 1 to 3 years old will have a lasting impact on how they will turn out to be in the future.
If you ever face a situation where you know that you are going to explode in anger in front of your children, follow this mantra. "Take a deep breath, walk away, get a grip on yourself" before addressing the situation. Another way is to douse yourself with a bucket of cold water over your head! 🙂 Highly recommended! Ha!
P.S It's tough but you have to make the effort to keep your anger in check. I know that from personal experiences especially when I have two little devils at home fighting each other and making so much noise everyday. 🙂
Disciplining a child is one of the most important, yet difficult, roles of being a parent. Effective discipline teaches a child to be self-disciplined later in life. It helps your child grow up to be happy and well-adjusted. Effective and positive discipline teaches and guides children, and helps them to feel safe, secure, and valued.
Discipline should be based on a child's age, development and temperament. A parent's goals by disciplining their child is to protect them from danger, to help them learn self-control and self-discipline and to develop a sense of responsibility.
Children should be respectful of their parent's authority. If they're disciplined harshly or unfairly, especially if it includes shouting or humiliating, will make it difficult if not impossible for a child to respect and trust their parent.
Recent studies suggest that low-income parents tend to endorse much harsher discipline, partially because they hold stronger beliefs about the value of spanking and experience higher levels of stress.
However, parents who work in high-stress jobs or are stay-at-home parents who are feeling frustrated or isolated are also at risk. It's very important that parents recognize their tendency to punish a child too severely and take the needed steps to make sure the punishment is appropriate for their child's age, temperament and maturity level.
The study's finding showed that parents from lower income levels or work high pressure jobs are more stressed, and they react more emotionally to their child's behavior, and thus use harsher discipline. A parent in this situation may benefit from outside assistance and learning about alternative disciplinary strategies that are more appropriate and less harsh.
It's also important for a parent to realize that children thrive on praise. Parents in such a situation may always jump to discipline but fail to praise their child for their good deeds, behaviors and traits. Children instinctively want to please their parents and make them proud. By encouraging positive behavior, the parent will most likely discourage the behavior that has driven them in the past to punish too harshly.
In order to encourage positive behavior deserving of praise, parents might want to consider giving their child a task they know they're able to accomplish, and praise their efforts along the way. Parents need to also consistently praise their children for the positive traits they possess. Their child might be good at math in school, helpful to their little brother or sister, or is good at drawing pictures. Praise these good traits and the child is likely to respond by acting appropriately and behaving positively in order to gain more praise.
In the end, it's important to remember that a child is just that - a child. A parent should make a concerted effort to make sure the discipline is appropriate and take care of themselves physically, mentally and emotionally so they can optimally provide for their child's physical and emotional well-being.
We've all heard the term, "Oh, that's child's play." It implies something is easy, frivolous and unimportant in the overall scheme of things. But to a child, child's play is essential to their mental, social, emotional, and physical development.
We all know that children like to play. But what we may not know is the importance of play in a child's life. Play is essential to every area of a child's growth and development.
Play provides a means for energy to be put to use. It strengthens and refines small and large motor skills, and it builds stamina and strength. Sensory learning develops mostly through play. Play is significant to physical development in that without it the body could not grow and develop normally.
Children possess a natural curiosity. They, explore, learn and make sense out of their environment by playing. Parents and educators alike can support this learning activity by ensuring age-appropriate toys, materials and environments are available to the child.
Play enables children to know things about the world and to discover information essential to learning. Through play children learn basic concepts such as colors, counting, how to build things, and how to solve problems. Thinking and reasoning skills are at work every time a child engages in some type of play.
Children learn to relate to one another, negotiate roles, share, and obey rules through play. They also learn how to belong to a group and how to be part of a team. A child obtains and retains friends through play.
Play fulfills many needs including a sense of accomplishment, successfully giving and receiving attention, and the need for self-esteem. It helps them develop a strong sense of self, and is emotionally satisfying to them. They learn about fairness, and through pretending learn appropriate ways of expressing emotion such as anger, fear, frustration, stress and discover ways of dealing with these feelings.
So encourage your child's play. Color pictures, make finger paintings, build buildings and imaginary cities with blocks, and built a tent in the middle of the living room and go camping! And as we all know, childhood is fleeting, so let them enjoy being a kid while they are one!
Chores can help develop a sense of responsibility and self worth in your child. It should be understood by all family members they are expected and necessary to a household running successfully and efficiently. They can help create a sense of unity and family and is a great place for your child to learn about teamwork. Parents should take special care to handle the delegation of chores to children so they don't become a source of frustration or create arguments.
Allow your child to have an active say in the delegation of chores. Give them choices. We all have household chores that we don't like to do, but if it's a chore the child enjoys doing then there's less likelihood it will create a battle in the end. The child will most likely appreciate having the chance to be heard and having a choice.
It's imperative that you set parameters early on for the successful completion of a chore. They may not perform up to snuff when they first start performing the chore, but show them where improvement is needed and praise them for a strong effort.
Also make sure the child understands there will be repercussions if they only put forth a minimal effort. Ensure the child understands the need for the chore's effective and efficient completion. Set consequences for substandard completion as a team. Make sure they see that if they don't perform their chores, it affects the other members of the team.
Spouses must work together and be a strong example for their children by completing their own chores each day. And don't allow a child to undermine your authority by battling with you over a designated chore. Stand your ground and don't give in, and emphasize the consequence and negative effect an uncompleted chore has on the family.
And keep an open mind when a child wants to discuss their thoughts or express their opinions about chores. Make sure the conversation stays positive and on target.
It's imperative for a child's healthy development to feel important and worthy. Healthy self-esteem is a child's armor against the challenges of the world. Kids who feel good about themselves seem to have an easier time handling conflicts and resisting negative pressures. They tend to smile more readily and enjoy life. These kids are realistic and generally optimistic. It's also been shown that children who feel important are well-rounded, respectful, and excel in academics, extracurricular activities and hobbies and develop healthy relationships with their peers.
In contrast, for children who do not feel important or cherished have low self-esteem, and challenges can become sources of major anxiety and frustration. Children who think poorly of themselves have a hard time finding solving problems, and may become passive, withdrawn, or depressed.
You are the biggest influence in your child feeling important, valued and worthy. Remember to praise your child for a job well done, and also for putting for a valiant effort. Praise the good traits they naturally possess, and help them find ways to learn from their mistakes and failures. Be honest and sincere in your praise. Help them realize that you also suffer from self doubt and can make mistakes from time to time, but that you know that you are important, valued and loved. When you nurture your own self -esteem and importance, your child will learn to do the same, so be sure to lead by example and steer clear of self-depreciating yourself or engaging in activities that lower your self-worth or importance.
Your child may have inaccurate or irrational beliefs about themselves, their abilities or their traits. Accentuate the positive about your child, and encourage your child to set realistic expectations and standards for themselves. Help them identify traits or skills they'd like to improve and help them come up with a game plan for accomplishing that goal. Encourage your child to become involved in cooperative activities that foster a sense of teamwork and accomplishment.
Through these and other positive, affirming activities, your child is sure to develop a strong sense of self importance, value and worth which will carry into their adult years.